Posted by Dinah on January 13, 2004, at 20:05:34
In reply to Re: Is this Transference? PANDABEAR » Catmom, posted by gardenergirl on January 13, 2004, at 19:01:56
> As a trainee in clinical psychology, I can tell you, I always seem to think about my clients when away from the office. I can't help it. Their issues, personalities, and our interactions in therapy are so thought-provoking. And I learn so much from them. I used to worry that this meant I was "too engaged" with my clients, but I now I realize it just means that I love what I do and I am continually stimulated by it. That can't be a bad thing.
It's great to have you on the board! It's so interesting to hear about things from the other side. I always assume my therapist never ever thinks about me. He's only mentioned thinking of me once. His Sunday School class was on the Gospel of James, and he thought of me because he knows I'm a big James fan. That's the only time I know of.
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> > It's important to be open and honest, even if it feels humiliating. Especially since you view your T as "an amazing therapist and very smart and trustworthy".
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> My own experience with a client opening up to me and talking about his transference was a wonderful learning experience. I could tell what he was so desperately trying to say, and I was hurting so much for him about how difficult it was to say it. But I felt like I needed to let him say it. That his ability to trust me was more important than my making it easier for him. And it definitely added a great deal of trust and empathy to the therapy relationship for us both to process it open and non-judgementally.
>It sounds like you're going to be a great therapist. The sort any of us would be happy to have.
(I often think it would be sooo beneficial for therapists to read this board - NOT MINE OF COURSE!! What do you think? Or would it scare them senseless?)
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