Posted by Kalamatianos on January 10, 2004, at 12:07:15
[Grumbling is…]
Microsoft Word says grumbling is like complaining, protesting, fretting, griping, bewailing, fussing, moaning, whining, and objecting, as like behaviors. Recent inductive research has discovered a direct connect to a time when we couldn’t speak for ourselves; infancy. We emerge in our first minutes complaining, fussing, and whining etc. With practice, we get good at these manipulation techniques.Society can tolerate an infant crying in protest to get fed or the wet diaper changed. Science classifies this as a reflex, as the dissatisfaction impulse. 40 year olds living with their parents don’t usually wear diapers. But, is there a common thread connecting adult grumbling to anxiety and depression, and the dissatisfaction response of infancy?
[Toxic Grumbling]
As adults, we are hour by hour confronted with things to be dissatisfied with. Instead of immediately grumbling about it, which takes time and energy away from solving the situation, we can employ strategies to resolve the issue(s).When infants, we are powerless. We lack whatever it takes to make a difference. It is clearly good for our species to complain our way to age five (years). Through trial and error and good parental coaching, we can mediate our griping and whining, so by age 15 we can be candidates for adulthood. So a habit of self deprecation is at work when adults grumble. Is this a bad habit or a good habit. Nevermind, it’s a “toxic habit”.
[A Remedy]
Grumbling keeps us in the problem and out of the solution. By inducing indecision into the mix, inductive researchers now know why grumbling can be the harbinger of folks being driven by impulse to a toxic level of low self worth, with indecision and denial blocking their ability to accept a way out.Therapy clients report misery and suffering, mixed with grumbling. Inductive research points to why, but therapists report not trusting nor having the time to embrace the new findings. However, a clear one dimensional solution is right there in front of us: STOP GRUMBLING!
[Self Does Matter]
We can do our own research. See just how long we can resist grumbling, first out loud and later with our internal voice. An encouraging note is that the more we resist grumbling, the better we get at resisting grumbling in new situations.I know these details only toooo well. I am a grateful recovering “TOXIC GRUMBLER”!
poster:Kalamatianos
thread:298981
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040110/msgs/298981.html