Posted by naiad on January 9, 2004, at 13:04:54
In reply to Re: Why is it so difficult helenlag » antigua, posted by justyourlaugh on January 9, 2004, at 9:26:53
JYL,
I have been working on myself in therapy for the last nine months and have decided that I can simultaneously work on my marriage. I'm reading "Getting the Love You Want" which has a fascinating premsie. The author, Harville Handrix, writes about why couples are initially attracted to one another (to fix the damage inflicted by their primary caretakers)and how they can use that information to have a conscious marriage. It may sound simplistic but I'm getting a lot out of it. I have high hopes that this will improve my life.
Your husband saying that you are needy because you wanted to hold hands is a red flag that something is amiss...sorry to say.
Take care.
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