Posted by fallsfall on December 17, 2003, at 7:21:49
In reply to Re: i wanted to add.., posted by speaker on December 17, 2003, at 7:04:19
They see gifts from us as increasing the imbalance in the relationship. They need the relationship to stay on a professional level - personal gifts from us to them bring the relationship to a personal level.
I used to bring cupcakes or donuts for our anniversary. The first year she was very skeptical, but decided that since it was for a celebration during the session and since I had one for her and one for me, that it was OK.
I made a game once ("In Search of Sanity") with a friend I made in the hospital. It was a good game, and gives a good sense of what it is like to be mentally ill and to go to the hospital. I gave her a copy of the game. But the game was completely therapy related. She kept it in her office (at least for years - I don't know if she still has it). We played it the day I gave it to her, but she didn't really want to play. She wanted to analyze, so it was a little disappointing. If she had just played it, then she would have gotten a sense of what my life was like.
If he decides that he can't accept your painting, it doesn't mean that he is rejecting you. It means that he is afraid that the relationship will get complicated. I'm sure that in ANY event he would LOVE to see the painting. I hope that if he decides he can't take it that you will bring it in to show him.
It is a very sweet gesture in any event.
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