Posted by Penny on December 16, 2003, at 13:45:08
In reply to Said she'll miss me..., posted by thewriteone on December 16, 2003, at 1:30:46
I had written you a longer post earlier, but my boss came in my office, so I closed my browser and, thus, lost the post. But, to make a long story short, I have been through terminating therapy b/c I was moving, and I ended up seeing my former T for a few months every other week or once a month while I got settled in with a new therapist. It was a 2.5 hour drive for me to see the old therapist, but it was worth it. And she told me she would miss me, and she wants me to keep her updated on where I am and what I'm doing, and also said (and this made it easier) that if, at some point, I would like a 'consultation session' with her, just to catch up, she would be open to that. So it wasn't "bye, never gonna see her again" but instead was left open to seeing her occasionally if I want to. It was also much easier in that I was already pretty comfortable with the new therapist by the time I terminated with the old one.
It is hard, but you WILL get through this, even if it feels like you won't. The best thing I can tell you is to let yourself grieve, let yourself feel your feelings - whether anger, hurt, sadness, insecurity, whatever you're feeling. Those feelings are real.
And know that she does care about you. Why wouldn't she? Try to focus on how far you have come in the time you've been seeing her. And if you decide to pursue therapy again in the future with another therapist, look for positive differences - new things the new therapist can teach you. I still miss my old therapist occasionally, but I've been seeing my current T for nearly a year now, and I know she cares, and I really like (love?) her. It's different, but the feeling of safety and security I have with her is the same.
You will get through this. I'm thinking of you.
P
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