Posted by devon00 on December 14, 2003, at 18:50:04
I have so many problems(!) but there are two things I've identified in my personality that I really wish to change. These are problems that I think cause me a lot of difficulty. The question is how to change.
First of all, I think I have a tendency to blame myself for everything. If a friend is mad or upset or doesn't act the way I expect, I always blame myself. If things don't go right at work, it's my fault.
The second thing is that I think I am very "thick headed" and demanding sometimes. Once I get something into my head it's hard for me to get it out. If I'm upset about something, I keep thinking and talking about it incessently. If I want to know something, I'll keep asking about it even if a friend doesn't have a ready answer. The thing is that my whole family is this way and I don't really even know how to identify that I'm doing it unless someone else points it out to me. Also, since I do a lot of self blame, I get very upset when I realise that I'm being hard headed, and this makes me depressed and fearful that I won't be able to change and no one will like me.
Do any of you have constructive advice for how to address these problems? Thanks.
poster:devon00
thread:289814
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