Posted by tabitha on December 11, 2003, at 20:04:26
In reply to Am I a grumbling and distracted liar?, posted by Kalamatianos on December 11, 2003, at 15:02:21
I'm not sure I understand what this post is talking about. It disturbs me though, because it sounds as though it's a story of a child who went through a traumatic experience and has had his memories disbelieved, then been told he acted badly and must make amends. Is that applicable at all?
Did you know that when a child has had a trauma, the amount of emotional damage depends a lot on the reaction she gets from telling an adult? If she is believed, protected, and comforted, the damage is minimized. If she is disbelieved, blamed, and has her feelings minimized, she will experience much more damage.
We are the adults now. Let's give our child-selves the support and comfort they deserve. Do they need to be told they are grumbling, delusional, liars, undisciplined, and have imaginary perceptions? That won't help them grow into whole people.
We don't have to shame ourselves into behaving like responsible adults.
poster:tabitha
thread:288817
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