Posted by Dinah on December 5, 2003, at 16:30:45
In reply to Flunking Therapy, posted by mair on December 5, 2003, at 14:24:09
Mair, you're doing just fine. If, when you are having trouble talking about things, you can talk about having trouble talking, that's plenty. And it sounds as if you're getting way better at doing that.
You aren't trying to divert her attention with chit chat. You aren't pretending nothing's wrong. You're being as honest as you're able to be at this point about the things you can be that honest about.
No one's movement is more glacial than mine, yet my therapist tells me he's seen plenty of progress. And that's it's ok for me to move at my own pace.
By the way, I have trouble with work problems too. My OCD acts up big time about work, yet I don't feel at all comfortable discussing the specifics, because it's work. So I think that might be a fairly normal block.
Have you asked your therapist if she thinks you've made progress? And maybe a few specifics. I'm going to ask my therapist for specifics next time. I think that helps a whole lot when we're feeling horrendously imperfect in therapy (as I am too right now). How do you think therapy is of benefit to you? What are her ideas? I doubt she thinks that therapy is a success or failure based on a certain rate of progress. She knows everyone is different.
And don't worry about looking good in her eyes. She's your therapist. When she sees you struggling with things in your life, she feels the caring concern a good therapist feels. She's not judging you on merit.
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