Posted by Karen_kay on December 3, 2003, at 15:14:48
In reply to CBT and Transference (long), posted by Miss Honeychurch on December 3, 2003, at 14:52:18
Well, you've made progress in being honest. Last week you told him you were offended that he made the comment about the hussy in the picture. Why not just bring up the dream and ask him what he thinks it means? (What was the dream by the way?) If he is way off, ie. it is about your rough childhood or something, then you can give him your version of what you think it means. This will open the door for some honest dialogue about your transference crush on him. A little bit of transference is a good thing and is very therapuetic!
Now, I'm not suggesting in any way you do this but if it were me......
If he were to become uncomfortable I would say
"You weren't uncomfortable checking out my brother's hussy girlfriend and commenting on it. Why are you suddenly uncomfortable with the fact that I have a small crush on you. This is normal anyway. What's wrong with you?"
But, I don't suggest you say it unless you want to :)
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