Posted by alysa on November 26, 2003, at 21:20:03
In reply to Re: Question re: Taking Responsibility Therapy » alysa, posted by Dr. Rod on November 25, 2003, at 4:48:32
Well, thanks for your take on it, after all I haven't been quite able to figure out what these people are trying to get at....
Not sure what you mean by "public" types...these are ones that want cash up front...
I guess I have a problem with this type of therapy given I don't have an impulse control problem...I'm a "stick in the mud" and I've been that way since I was about 6...very conscientious...maybe I should get some impulses! I don't know necesarily that "harnessing impulses" results in all that good stuff...most of the happy people I know are quite impulsive and really don't suffer many consequences as a result...and even if they do..it doesn't bother them much. People must require some degree of impulsiveness to live (live, not exist). I think I'll work on developing more impulsiveness and stronger ego defense mechanisms to match! I just find it rather frustrating that after years I keep encountering the same type of thing yet when I protest that being even super responsible has not helped me at all I am ignored or put down as "not trying hard enough". I have been routinely told "Well, you should feel better" but I don't.
I've often experienced this same problem in therapy that my therapists kind of well ***assume*** that I have some problem I don't have and rather than asking, proceed to administer therapy without really clarifying my problems, resulting in great confusion on my part. I guess this has a lot to do with therapists' expectations of clients rather than with my behaviour. Or perhaps it is an example of gross misattribution that irresponsible behaviour caused my depression?
Well, each to his/her own...if it works for ya, all the power to you.
Take Care,
Alysa
> Sounds like "responsible" is in the eye of the beholder... Ask these ubiquitous therapists what taking responsibility would look like, so you can get a better clue as to what they mean... Also, these sound like public mental health types... Am I close???
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> I like Dr. Phil's books, "Life Strategies" and "Self Matters"... I particularly like the workbook companions for both of these books... The workbooks are also cheaper and still hit all the high points of the books…
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> I also promote "The Peck Protocol"… You can find a tiny smidge about it at Decisionhome.com on the WEB... David Peck taught that poor impulse control went hand in hand with “obligatory thinking” which has no options, to be replaced by "Outcome Thinking" containing options... By learning to harness your impulses, you will discover love, acceptance, respect, and responsibility, to replace (or update) your obligations to the baggage of your life...
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> Essentially you start living at the age of that body you are inside of, and stop acting out the same ways you did as a child, when impulsiveness wasn't necessarily irresponsible... "Outcome Thinking" helps you keep track of the context you are operating in so you can act appropriately by your own design, not just how you think people want you to act... You get to take charge of your life…
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