Posted by fallsfall on November 26, 2003, at 17:25:50
In reply to Re: How would Perfect Client Interpret this? » fallsfall, posted by Karen_kay on November 26, 2003, at 7:57:21
Having no life outside of therapy is probably not a goal we should be persuing...
Often, I think, therapists don't push for the harder issues because they know that we can't talk about things until we are ready to. I have to talk about the hard things because otherwise I'm not a Perfect Client. I guess I'm also afraid if I avoid the hard issues that he will tell me that I'm wasting his time and kick me out. I seem to have an endless supply of hard issues, so I can talk about them and not worry about being "better" enough to have to leave.
If you told him that you wanted to get to the harder stuff, but needed his help/encouragement, I'm sure he would try pushing. It seems like you are starting to move in that direction, with printing out your posts etc. It can be painful to deal with the hard stuff - but it can be really rewarding, too. And dealing with the hard stuff will allow us to be less miserable in the future - I'm all for that.
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