Posted by Dr. Rod on November 23, 2003, at 0:42:58
In reply to Re: Not a Life Sentence, posted by krazybirdlady on November 22, 2003, at 22:05:13
"It" is different for each person, so precision is not a goal... Goal orientation and option thinking replacing expectations and obligatory thinking are some goals of "outcome thinking"...
Can you see yourself not caring whether you take the medications or not??? Can you see yourself recognizing that you are having an episode and you are OK with it??? "Got it" is like not being affected anymore... You systematically choreograph your life to minimize affectations that blackmail your emotions...
Again, this strategy appears different for each person... However, when a person successfully trades in their childhood fear of danger, which causes them to freeze in their tracks, for respect for the very same danger, which gives them options not available to the unfinished mind of a child, they can then choose the timing and the distance for jumping out of the way of danger... Note: if you see an adult freeze in their tracks, they are stuck in the childhood fear of danger no matter how old they are...
The difficulty for most folks is that they confuse obligation for respect... Others have respect intellectually induced in them; they talk respect but their feet still freeze at the site of danger... Also, you can't be good at respect for danger, or respect for others, until you have had healthy self-respect for awhile... Practice makes perfect, they say...
Once you exhibit respect, you take responsibility for who you are separate from what you do, you accept yourself and your limitations, and trade in your childhood "approval" for adult "love", you would be a candidate for testing for "got it"...
To be precise, you are not going to be out of the woods until you harness your impulses and develop effective conflict management skills... The reason I hesitate to start out here is "Affective Disorder" folks turn a deaf ear to any notion that they are acting like children. Incidentally, children are well known to have poor impulse and conflict "management-skills"...
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