Posted by Medusa on November 22, 2003, at 3:44:59
In reply to Perfect therapy Client Questions - Part II, posted by DaisyM on November 21, 2003, at 20:15:19
> Holidays -- cards? Gifts? I'm thinking something little and symbolic.
>no no no no no ... this is a professional relationship, if anything the seller gives something as thanks for business.
> Office comfort -- too hot, too cold - Do you speak up or dress in layers?
>my comfort changes during the session. there's a balcony and during the break I open the door, leave it open, go out on the balcony. I always wear a scarf. If I'm cold, I'll untie the scarf and wrap it around my shoulders. Last time I got up and got my jacket (as in suit jacket, worn under long coat) and put that on.
> You drive in the parking lot at the same time.
>I would fake a call until the therapist was in the building - because when I start work, I like to have my little settling-in routine, and I'd rather not have the therapist defend his or her boundaries should s/he also need such a routine. I'm sure therapists know they're fair game in the parking lot much of the time, so they most likely have a completely different transition from free time to work, but still.
> Your appointment usually falls on Thursday.
>(admitting to the NEED)...or do you skip to the next week? (
>In current situation (regular appointments every other week) I suggested skipping entirely. Therapist will contact me if something can be arranged before then, but I'm not asking. Then again, present therapy doesn't provide immediate support - it's a short-term systems therapy, and during the sessions they push me pretty hard to deal with unasked (then unanswered) questions.
I should probably ask them where to get support.
> About reading Psych books - do you tell what you are reading? Give them a copy?
>Made this mistake in the first systems therapy I did - the shrink poo-poo'd a book I said I found helpful as "quick reading". Well, yeah, quicker than heavy theory books, but wtf? I'm too sensitive to reactions. OTOH, I've been thinking of asking current therapy team for a recommendation of a their-language equivalent of a systems theory book I'm now reading that isn't available in translation.
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