Posted by karen_kay on November 20, 2003, at 18:02:18
In reply to He thought the friend was me!, posted by DaisyM on November 20, 2003, at 17:32:04
> He asked me straight out if there was a problem,if I was uncomfortable, etc. I was so shocked! He laughed at that but insisted that he wanted to know if ever I was unhappy with him. Glad to know he wants to keep me! :)
>It is always so good to hear that reassurance that Yes!!!! they do like us as clients and want us to feel comfortable. My therapist is always making comments like "I like you as a person" and "I know you would be fun to hang out with." and it is always wonderful to hear those kind of comments. I tend to get a little offended though, because I feel like he is just trying to pump my ego a bit. I don't take bs too kindly.
> We talked (again) about how hard all this is for me: trusting, allowing myself to need, having this huge desire to take care of him, etc. I really hope that calms down soon. Therapy itself is almost as much to deal with as the issues that brought me there!>I hear you sister! It seems so hard sometimes. I don't realize how hard it is until I get home and think about things I say during the session. Then, I think how can I fix what I said, or Maybe he'll forget that I said that. But, usually I just forget that I said it. :)
> Anyway -- thanks for the advice. Sheesh, only 4 people even know I HAVE a Therapist and look at this mess! :)>Funny, almost everyone I know knows I have a therapist! But, I think he's absolutely wonderful, so I talk about him quite a bit. I feel bad sometimes though because I know people wonder "What does she say about me?" Ha Ha, they'll never know!
I'm sure your sessions will get better with time hun. You just have to allow yourself to trust him. It's hard, trust me, I know! But, I had a BIG event today, and I trust my therapist so VERY much now! I think I'm going to tell him anything I want now! I think the advice he gave me was right on! Good luck hun! Start trusting him, it a choice that you have to make, no one else can make it for you and it is a choice!
Karen
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