Posted by karen_kay on November 19, 2003, at 23:21:10
In reply to Re: Multi diagnosed wife. Help dont want to divorce., posted by LOVEUMIKO on November 19, 2003, at 22:32:26
> Thanks for writing Karen,
>You are very welcome! :)
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I have read her emails saying she hears things & see people that are not there..claiming to be psychic.>As I look back on it, I too have gone through this. During periods of extreme stress, I have hallucinated, and I was completely convinced that I was psychic. (And I am a very rational and logical person) Now that I am on meds that work for me, I no longer have this problem. I highly doubt that she is taking her medication properly, or that she is on the right dosage. Do you know, is she on an antipsychotic (such as Zyprexa, Seroquel, Abilify, Resperdal). That would stop the hallucinations. She should also be on a mood stabilizer such as lithium, depakote, tegretol, lamictal, or topamax. These are concerns you should take up with her if, and when she is stabilized and back home. You should set certain conditions and limits in no uncertain terms regarding her behavior and your relationship. (ie. I will remain in this relationship and continue to give my support if you continue to take your medication and continue therapy, as well as continue to improve!).
> She tells police I killed someone. "What if" she takes her thoughts a step further, by getting physicaly dangerous? This is another concern I should keep in mind.
>I agree. You have to keep your concerns in mind, as well as her own. But, you can't allow her to destroy your whole family in the process. I'm not saying you should give up. I'm just saying you should set firm boundaries and stick to them.
> I do love her and can't wait until we can talk.I hope she will understand. Its going to be a very sad conversation and I hope she can take what she has created.>I think that with proper medication and therapy she will be able to deal with everything. The big question right now is will you? Are you ok?
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> If she came down with cancer I surely would not leave her, but this behavior is tramatizing to the whole family. I just hope she does well without me holding her hand through life.>You must keep in mind that this too is a disease, much like cancer, only it can be more devistating. I think the important thing right now is stabilizing her right now. Is there a way to contact her therapist and check into getting her involuntarily committed? She may not like it, but in the end it may be the best thing for her. I was actually hospitalized overnight once nad it was a good thing at the time. I realy disliked my therapist at the time, but looking back, I don't hold a grudge at the people who did it. They were concerned about me and did it out of love. Is this an option?
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