Posted by ace on November 9, 2003, at 21:21:36
In reply to CBT'ing myself!, posted by NikkiT2 on November 9, 2003, at 12:16:27
> OK, tomorrow I give my first talk to students!! I'm spending the afternoon with some Community Mental Health students, to give them the Service User (SU) perspective - what we feel is good care, what is bad care etc!
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> Anyway.. I'm terrified. Totally and utterly! So I need to CBT myself, and I'm not good enough to just do it quietly in my head!
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> So..
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> Statement - If I wear my old but comfy trainers they're going to think less of me for not having decent ones.
> Reality - They probably won't notice whats on your feet. Your trousers almost cover them anyway. And people don't judge others on their trainers anyway.. Not once they're over puberty anyway!
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> Statement - They won't take me seriously because I'm so fat
> Reality - Your opinions don't change because your waistline does. People will be interested in your comments and what you have to tell them. They're not going to dismiss everything you say just because you're not a perfect size 10.
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> Statement - I'm going to sweat really heavily travelling there so wil look a mess
> Reality - Yes, you probably will. So leave 30 mins earlier than you planned to, and find a cafe to sit in and have a cold drink before you go to their building. Its a busy part of London, there will be cafe's everywhere.
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> Statement - I won't have anything interesting to say.
> Reality - You're preparing, you have notes. You have lots of comments from others, handouts for 40 people, and it will mostly be question and answer. You can leave early if needs be, and that would be quite good as you would then miss rush hour home.
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> Above all, remember they have invited you. They want to listen to you. They wouldn't be doing this course if they weren't interested in it. Anything you say will be helpful to them in the long term, and might improve things for your friends and others who suffer.
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> Phew..
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> NikkiHi Nikki,
I'm glad you find CBT helpful...I hope I didn't offend you before...
Ace.
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