Posted by Poet on November 3, 2003, at 10:36:07
In reply to Re: More Questions for the Club, posted by deirdrehbrt on October 31, 2003, at 21:21:38
> I think that using threat of abandonment as a theraputic tool should not be part of the perfect therapists' toolkit. Just too big of a hammer.
My head still hurts from that hammer.
> What exactly does "being present for your appointment" mean?
I'm not DID, but I think, for all patients, it means that you are ready to talk openly about what you need to and not dodge questions. If she hits on something painful I start staring out the window or looking at something in the room. She pulls me back with "where did you just go?" A revised version of "what are you thinking?"
> If more than one of us show up, do we have to pay extra for the alters?
No, you'd only by one ticket for a movie.
> How many of us have to read the assignments?
I think it would depend on what the topic is and how it was assigned to.
> If the one who is in the office now doesn't remember last week's session, is it OK to ask you to give us the highlights?
Absolutely, I think the therapist would appreciate that you are trying hard.
> If I miss an appointment because I knew it was Wednesday when you knew it was Thursday, can you handle that without getting angry?
Write down the appointment, confirm it outloud and it's okay to call the day before to make sure.
> If I self-injure, would you rather me tell you, and deal with it, or would you rather that I ignore that aspect of my life for fear you will stop seeing me?
Ooh, tough one. I'm dealing with that myself, she said if I keep binging (I'm bulimic among other things) she'll refer me to a specialist. So if I binge, do I lie or tell her the truth and get dumped? Other posters suggest to ask if I could still see her and the specialist. You could ask the same thing.
Poet
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