Posted by Dinah on November 2, 2003, at 20:39:02
In reply to Re: Perfect Therapist Club, posted by Pfinstegg on November 1, 2003, at 22:31:46
No, you sure aren't the only one. And I didn't think you were criticizing him about the clothes thing, any more than I meant to be really critical about the nose thing. It just helps to have something to lighten the mood that therapy leaves you with, and how better than by having a bit of fun with them.
I'm not sure my therapist is up to perfect yet, but he really has gotten pretty good. We were discussing whether I was a difficult client the other day. And whether he minded that I gave him strong hints on how he can say things to me without causing a flaming amygdala. And he was really laid back and said that no, he thought that it was important to communicate in a way that the other person can hear what you are saying, and he doesn't mind my helping him to do that. He also talked about how challenging me might upset me no matter how he words it, and what we might do in those circumstances. It felt so nice to be able to talk about those things.
I think the thing that makes my therapist most perfect (for me) is that he's teaching me that two people can get angry without it being the end of the world. That you can keep the connection even if you get angry.
But I think he's at his most perfect when he's at his most genuine. The times I've really made giant leaps in therapy are when he lets himself be at least a bit real. I can always tell because his drawl becomes more pronounced.
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