Posted by Emme on October 31, 2003, at 22:41:43
In reply to Re: Perfect Therapy Patient Club, posted by Poet on October 29, 2003, at 19:15:12
> > We'll need a list of rules -- or at least interpretations of those that break the rules. As in:
> > Being on time - What does too early or too late mean?I'm almost always on time unless traffic is bad. I’m a**l that way. I missed a couple of appointments because I was having trouble remembering things and forget to even write the appts down, and she was cool about it and was a little worried that my memory was slipping.
Too late?....maybe the person is trying to control the situation...?
> > Dressing for the visit: Do you think about it? If so, what does that mean?Heck no. Sometimes I have just rolled out of the shower and show up with wet hair and in jeans.
> >What foods are we endorsing for post-therapy consolation: (I vote for cream :)!
Chocolate! Or iced coffee from Dunkin' Donuts. Or ice cream.
> How many times is sneaking a glance at the clock or your watch allowable per session?I don't know. She keeps the clock.
> What about note taking? In order to be perfect I would like to get it down right away and not wait until I get home.Maybe I should given my cruddy memory. Sometimes I write down new "mantras" afterwards. I have the sense it gives her performance anxiety when people write stuff down. I know I shouldn't be worrying about how she feels, but it's worked out so far without me taking notes.
> ??How often is it "OK" to call your therapist, After hours? During business hours?
Any time. No guarantee she’ll be there at that moment of course. But as for the anytime, she’d rather talk to me than have me frightened and in trouble. I try not to take advantage of her as far as how late or early I call ( usually I call during late morning or the afternoon) and I also know that if she is busy and doesn’t want to answer, she can always let the machine pick up and will call back when she can. How often? She's never complained. Sometimes I call a lot, sometimes I go a while without calling.
> ??Does your therapist ever make mistakes? What was the worst one? Did you tell them? when you've told the therapist about her/his mistakes, how have they responded? What's the Perfect Therapist response?
I think she does. Usually a miscommunication. If I'm upset by something she says, I let her know. Sometimes she owns it, sometimes she doesn’t.
> ???Are you jealous of their other clients?
No. I don’t even think about them.
> ??Have you searched on the internet for them (my personal favorite)? Driven past their house? Do you know what kind of car they drive? Do you know the car's license number?
Searched on internet? No. I know her house and car because she has a home office. Not the inside of her house of course. She has an attached office.
> ??Do you know their religious affiliation?
Yes I do.
> ??How do they view us? And, do we really want to know?
She gives every indication of positive regard. If she thinks otherwise I sure don’t want to know. :)
> ??what does the therapist's attire mean?
I can tell her schedule by how she dresses. She has a part time practice. If it's just me for a while she wears jeans because her personal style is not unlike mine and she knows I don't really care what she's wearing. Not that we talked about it. She just knows. If she's got several that day she dresses up because other clients want her to look professional.
Emme
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