Posted by Tabitha on October 30, 2003, at 19:07:18
Well maybe not yelled, but I definitely raised my voice. I've never done this before. It felt kind of good. Usually I either cry or show no emotion except vague crabbiness. We actually resolved the issue-- about my gender issues-- she thought I was stuck in hating men and being victimized and not open to change-- I thought I was bravely airing my anti-men thoughts, hoping for help getting free of them. She told me to use different words to make it clear I realize I'm making assumptions that might not be correct, so she can better respect my feelings and I'll sound less victim-like. I thought it went without saying I was open to changing these thoughts-- after all I've joined her mixed gender group,and I'm talking about my reactions. She didn't give me the benefit of the doubt. I think she actually apologized, along with pointing out that I was assuming she should just know that I was open to changing my beliefs, even though I stated them without the weasel words. It felt like a good session. I've been mad at her over this subject for weeks.
poster:Tabitha
thread:275081
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