Posted by DaisyM on October 16, 2003, at 9:43:19
In reply to A Broken Man, posted by galkeepinon on October 16, 2003, at 3:59:50
What a beautiful post. What a gift they gave each other.
However, I believe that the scale is wrong. Death of a spouse is not the toughest thing. Watching your spouse die...slowly, fighting each step of the way, knowing you can't stop it, is way worse. Watching them turn bitter and angry is worse still. My husband is not even 45 yet, and has two severe chronic illnesses (not cancer) which are destroying him, a system at a time. I can deal with all of the medical stuff -- I knew it when I married him, at least as much as any 21 year old can comprehend, but the anger, resentment and "why me" is beginning to take its toll. Does he believe in therapy? No. Does he need it? yes.
I think the journey will be harder than the end.
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