Posted by DaisyM on October 14, 2003, at 15:24:40
I have a really hard time leaning on other people...I don't trust that they can emotionally handle my *needs*...My therapist says somewhere I learned that my needs were "too big". So I hold back. He has been encouraging me to call when I need to (this is so, so hard for me) and even felt we should go to twice a week because things have gotten so hard and we are going to some really painful places. (I agree!)
Yesterday, we spent a lot of time talking about this dependency...how did it feel (very scary!) and why didn't I "want to need" him. But he never said and I never ask, "how do you know you have become too dependent?" And, is this developing dependency a good thing or not?
Advice? Previous experience? How do you ask that question without it looking like an attraction (not the case).
poster:DaisyM
thread:269359
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