Posted by john26 on October 11, 2003, at 2:24:56
In reply to Re: feeling lost(a little about therapy?), posted by EscherDementian on October 11, 2003, at 0:11:45
thank you EscherDementian for your post. it helped a lot. i did back away from talking hope when she's dark. it's tough but i thought about the conflict part.
she did see her therapist - in our car. she wouldn't leave but i was happy the therapist did it.
she got something for pain. now she talks about leaving but also about decorating and trips. she also talks about getting her life back and removing memories.
personally i'd like to kick the crap out of her mom. she's was an emotional tyrant that put everything on her and controlled everything including who and when she dated. the father blamed her if the mom was mad at him. so it sounds much like your story.
did you feel like you had completely disconnected from your parents before his death or were always worried that you were strong but they were still haunting you. i guess i'm asking if the relapse isn't a relapse but a continuation of your healing and self discovery of your inner child that you hadn't finished yet? what do you think?
i feel that my wife was stronger before but that this is in a way necessary for her true self.
my heart is with you and yours,
ben
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