Posted by HannahW on October 8, 2003, at 15:12:40
In reply to Re: Therapy groups as social resources » Medusa, posted by Tabitha on October 8, 2003, at 14:43:06
> You're right about the difference between friends with whom you have common interests, and friends who mainly trade support.
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> I seem to get in trouble when I try to use 'fun' friends for support, and vice versa. I just end up disappointed. Someday maybe I'll know people who serve both purposes. Or maybe I'm expecting something that doesn't make sense.I've always thought that someone HAD to serve both purposes in order to be a friend. But looking at it in light of some people are better at fun, and some people are better at support, it makes good sense to divide them up that way. Then maybe I wouldn't be so disappointed either.
Although I had a friend once who divided her friends up into groups like that and it really hurt me when she wouldn't let me be in more than one group at a time. I was only a "fun" friend, when I really wanted to be closer to her.
I hope we both find people to fit into both categories. Those are wonderful, albeit hard to find.
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