Posted by DaisyM on September 30, 2003, at 16:13:48
In reply to Re: How do you deal with death from a non religious » jonh kimble, posted by JonW on September 30, 2003, at 12:43:57
I think if you have children this is somewhat easier because you have a physical manifestation of yourself to "prove" your existance. Hopefully, some of your values and beliefs continue on in them.
But, if no kids, then I think you can think of the universal consciousness and the contributions we all make to that. I work with special needs infants and toddlers. The work we do here often doesn't result in measurable changes in the moment but the kindness, loving and giving towards these children gets reflected all around until it is almost palpable...and we all get to bask in it.
All of the things you have done, and will do, resonate in the universal consciousness, the smallest gestures can be the things remembered the longest. I have a friend who is a nurse. She tells me that when she was in school, she was doing her rotations through the hospital, trying to decide what kind of nurse to be. During her maternity rotation, a young mother had a perfectly normal birth and the baby was normal size, etc. The baby died unexpectantly 12 hours later, during my friend's shift. Her experience of grief and sorrow over this baby led her into neonatal nursing where she is now a researcher and has saved countless lives of other babies. Some 10 years later, she was covering at that same hospital in the maternity ward and that same mom was having her fifth baby. My friend went into the mom's room and told her that she believes her first child was put on this earth to help my friend find her path...and save so many other babies.
We are all here for a reason. We just don't know always what it is. Maybe we aren't suppose to.
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