Posted by galkeepinon on September 10, 2003, at 17:02:03
In reply to Re: Feelings tonight » galkeepinon, posted by fallsfall on September 10, 2003, at 6:56:47
Hi fallsfall, Thank you so much for your support! It does make sense that being self-centered and trying to take care of yourself when in pain are 2 different things? I really appreciate the feedback. I have a friend who says the same thing, and about not being alone. Sometimes I feel like I am, of course not wanting pain for anyone, however, she says she goes through the similar stuff I talk about. I think I may catastrophize at times, I've been told that by a therapist, and when I step back into introspection I think I do, but it doesn't lesssen the pain, just clarifies for me I guess, so I'm working on it. I guess I just keep on keepin on.
No, I don't have a therapist at the moment. I have done so much work in therapy in the past, I hesitate to start up again. I've done group, CBT, and one and one. Maybe I'm not trying hard enough. My psychiatrist is very good at therapy as well as prescribing my meds,. he just says I'm resisting now so he wants me to journal feelings for our next appt, and so I will.
What exactly does resistance mean that you know of? Just holding back my feelings? That's all I came up with, I should have asked him.
My mother is very supportive. My father has caused a lot of stress and heartache for my family recently more so and it just got to me last night I guess. But also, just trying to figure out where I'm really going and how to get there. Maybe I did need a good cry.
Just being here for me is a beautiful way that you can help and I would appreciate that so much!
Thank you.> Asking for help on a message board is not being self-centered. I see you respond a lot to other people, that is not being self-centered. If she's the only one who has said that, and then she apologized I think that you can think that noone has said that.
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> You sound like you are in a lot of pain. And you would like the pain to go away - that's quite reasonable. Pretending that things are OK doesn't make it better.
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> I'm glad you wrote your email. It can be hard to write about important things. I find that if I write it helps me to identify what is most important so that I can focus on that. It also helps me to "think it through" because if I am trying to explain things to someone else it has to be fairly clear in my mind. Getting feedback from others on your issues could help, too. Sometimes I make some pretty outlandish assumptions, but if someone points them out to me I can then think straighter on the issue. Sometimes if I talk to a friend, I find that other people have the same issue (and I thought I was the only one). Knowing that I'm not the only one sometimes makes it easier.
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> Do you have a therapist? Have you talked about these issues with him/her?
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> You can't do this alone. This is the time to ask friends and family to listen and help.
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> Let us know how we can help.
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