Posted by Rigby on September 3, 2003, at 11:47:27
In reply to Re: therapists always validating? » Penny, posted by Dinah on September 3, 2003, at 11:03:24
My therapist basically thinks I'm very, very hard on myself and am too fast to take responsibility and blame (which is true--I'm very quick to see the other side w/out ever seeing mine!) so she'll almost always err on my side. However, in situations where she feels I've been taken advantage of and I don't react she will disagree with me. For example, a friend's boyfriend French kissed me in a bar a few months ago and I had no reaction (it was kinda bizarre) and she got on my case for not being pissed at him. Not badly on my case but she disagreed with my "this is not a big deal" reaction. She also disagreed with me not confronting him. It ticked me off she wouldn't agree with me but I eventually did talk with him at my own pace. I also say too that she's just not always right--I didn't think it was a huge deal and I still don't. In the end I said, "Reasonable minds can differ." She now uses that phrase now too which I find kind of funny.
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