Posted by Reva on September 3, 2003, at 7:44:40
I'm afraid that parental invalidation can cause their children to lose sight of their goals if they have them, or to fail to form any in the first place. The result is a chaotic mind and soul with depression, exaggerated "happiness" (mania) or more frequently-- both combined, yielding an agitated depression or an urgent desperate anger directed mostly at oneself or misdirected to the nearest irritating target. I also strongly suspect that a literal drop in IQ and learning ability is another disasterous result. It seems that there is no drug to help with any of this in the long run. I don't mean to be negative, only real. I believe the "solution" lies in very carefully structured family therapy, and I suspect that virtually nobody gets this for obvious reasons. I also suspect that the next best "treatment" is for the sufferer is to be willing and able to confront the (hopefully still alive and kicking) invalidators themselves WITHOUT any intervening "therapist". BUT THIS IS SO HARD AND SO FRUSTRATING AND SUCH HIDEOUSLY LONELY WORK, and requires SUCH CAREFUL SELF-EDUCATION AROUND ONE'S OWN PSYCHOLOGICAL ISSUES, that I'm also convinced the outcome will be hopeless WITHOUT constant outside support and guidance. CAN THIS BULLETIN BOARD PROVIDE THAT?? Any feedback will be more than welcome! OVER...
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