Posted by fallsfall on September 1, 2003, at 21:35:38
In reply to Do you ever wonder?, posted by Dinah on September 1, 2003, at 20:35:44
I think you are exactly correct about the behaviors meeting a need. Maybe the people who can give them up have another way to meet that need, so it isn't a problem.
It was really easy for me to give up cigarettes. I had a great reason: I wanted to get pregnant and give my baby the best chance. The reasons I smoked were: an old boyfriend told me that he could smoke and I couldn't, and my husband smoked. So I had great reasons for stopping and lousy reasons for smoking. It was really easy.
Other people with different reasons can't give up cigarettes at all.
So we have to figure out what needs are being filled, and then come up with another way to fill them. I was trying to do this about my dependency in therapy, and we were making progress, but we didn't get far enough fast enough.
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