Posted by galkeepinon on August 24, 2003, at 0:40:33
In reply to Re: Could anyone please give me some advice?, posted by shar on August 23, 2003, at 22:15:16
Thanks so much Shar~~I totally hear you:-)
This has been a tough one, this person is a great person, and we have a lot of great memories, I think time may be the best thing, and of course, a little change on my part. Do you think maybe 'what ever will be will be'? Would you, if in my shoes, just let it go for now? That is the advice I have gotten from one confidant for now, I just don't want this friend to think I'm pissed, or don't want to be friends anymore because I'm really not wanting to be angry, I'm just hurt by the email and I'm really not sure I want to remain friends at this point-because of a few hurtful things that were said on my friend's part. I know she's human, and not perfect. Am I contraindicating myself? ;( LOL~~that's why the question about time. It just has really made me think. This thing is obviously really bugging me still. What do you think about what I've just said?
Thanks again so much for the reply,
galkeepinon
> I think Falls is right on. Your friend may well be saying "this is what I can handle" and trying to set a boundary. MANY people of my acquaintance simply cannot deal with "negativity" in various forms.
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> And depression falls, often, into that category. You two may be able to have a delightful friendship that includes many different activities, and discussions, but does not include much in the way of discussing your illness. Different people can handle different things, and friendships (IMHO) should focus on the good stuff and let go the stuff that isn't mutually enjoyable or fulfilling.
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> Just MHO.
> Shar
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