Posted by Dinah on August 17, 2003, at 16:59:12
In reply to Re: What do you think of online DBT?, posted by judy1 on August 17, 2003, at 16:44:03
Oh it's ongoing. I jealously guard the relationship we've built against any potential threats. The safety I feel with him is too important to my mental stability to jeopardize it for any DBT gains that may or may not arise.
I have no real problem being honest about what happens during the week with him, but if I don't feel like relating what happened to DBT skills or practicing what I could have done instead, I don't want him to feel like it's his place to push. It would just change everything, and I'd hate that to the point of being totally.... Well, I'm not always the most reasonable person in the world.
Even something as simple as him asking to see the diary card, or commenting if I didn't fill it out, or asking what distress tolerance skills I could have applied. Even if he did it non-judgementally. If he did those things on a consistent basis, I would feel like he was pushing me. And I'd dig in my heels, act very badly indeed, and blow up continuously. Probably storm out of sessions. And lose my safety.
On the other hand, it would make it really really easy to cut down on the number of times I'd want to see him.
Ok, you CBT types. I know I'm fortunetelling here. But I prefer to call it evaluating past experience and applying it to future possibilities.
I'll discuss it with him on Tuesday. But in the past, whenever I've gotten on a CBT kick and asked him to help me stay on task and evaluate my progress, he has quite wisely declined. I'm sure he knows as well as I do the pitfalls involved and we can probably work out an acceptable arrangement.
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