Posted by Rigby on August 8, 2003, at 9:18:41
In reply to Re: Opinions » Rigby, posted by fallsfall on August 7, 2003, at 21:40:39
Hi Fallsfall,
Thanks for the message. Yeah, I'm beginning to feel how painful this all is. I've felt every color of the emotional spectrum it seems--everything from rage to frustration to love and it's not projection or transference either--I can tell what's now and what's then. It also felt like one big mind-f*ck after I met with her last time--at last, after a year and a half she admits to this when all along I've been questioning my instincts? One reason I said I had to leave was that I was beginning to feel I couldn't trust my instincts anymore--now I know why.
> Wow. She messed up. Unfortunately, her mistake will be painful for you. I'm sorry.I think she believes she's the best therapist for me--or at least she did. I do have someone else I talked to about this who said I should try and get through the emotions and be "done" with this current therapist before seeing her.
> Since she seems honest, does she think that she can help you through the termination? If she can't, you may need to see a new therapist to get through the termination (and then your termination with him/her shouldn't be very hard).This also really hurts. I was attracted to her the minute I met her and cut it off the first time I saw her after a few sessions. A year or so later I had a crisis and just went to her--not thinking about this angle. Now I really don't want her to be my therapist but I really want to get to know her. Why isn't a friendship even allowed?
> It is really a shame to miss out on chemistry, but I think that you will need to do that this time.
poster:Rigby
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