Posted by Tabitha on August 2, 2003, at 11:04:35
In reply to Regression, posted by Dinah on August 2, 2003, at 9:59:59
Dinah, not sure if my experience will help, but here it is. I had regression reactions related to romantic rejection. It was a sort of desperate need to get validation from my object of interest, along with compulsion to pursue them. At one point I was having a lot of it, and just tried to stay with the feelings and really feel it for what it was, ignoring the thoughts about the present situation. I had a sort of little breakthrough where it really felt like old pain, the pain of a child. It was clear the feelings were about my parents, but I couldn't tell if it was toward mom or dad or both.
I also went through a time where I forced myself to stop reacting to the feelings by carrying out the cycle of behavior that was re-creating the situations (namely pursuing men who weren't all that interested in me). After the combination of those 2 things, the whole cycle seemed to just break up. That particular reaction doesn't come up much for me anymore.
My theory is.. our old pain just wants to be heard. Once we hear its message, it doesn't have to keep coming up.
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