Posted by Morgen on August 1, 2003, at 2:08:34
In reply to My introduction, and my baggage!, posted by TheOnlyD on July 31, 2003, at 22:20:37
Hello, D.
I haven't heard of this before -- but that doesn't mean anything -- and up until last week I didn't have any experience with anxiety attacks...but... a few thoughts came to mind.
1) Does your girlfriend know about this? -- i.e., the medication, the unexplained attacks, etc.
2) Does she know how you feel for her?
3) Do you know how she feels about you?
4) Is she the type of person you would feel comfortable talking with about any of the above?If no to any of the above questions, I could understand why you might not feel totally at ease around her, perhaps even insecure, and since so much is riding on it -- as you seem to indicate, since you feel very much for her -- your response seems understandable.
I am of course, no doctor. Just one woman's perspective. If I had a boyfriend who I was very serious about and deeply in love with, I would want him to talk to me about it so I could reassure him. I don't know if that would be the best thing or "good" for him, but that's what I would want. If I had a boyfriend I was unsure of or didn't completely know how I felt, then I would probably feel a lot of pressure if I was unable to give such reassurances. (On the other hand, sometimes reassuring someone of how you feel makes a person feel stronger -- but I'm not sure that's the best way to go about winning someone!). So ultimately, I think you are on the right track looking into therapy.
Just my thoughts. Good luck!
Morgenada
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