Posted by Dinah on July 16, 2003, at 16:18:08
In reply to Re: My therapist comes back tomorrow!!! » Dinah, posted by Tabitha on July 16, 2003, at 14:57:49
I hate therapist conflict as well. I feel really fortunate that my therapist and I are currently on a crest of our relationship. But as with all relationships I'm sure a trough or two is ahead.
We didn't do much processing of his absence. Probably because my main reaction to his absence was to send my emotions largely underground and get hyper-rational. I'm sure I'll be back to my normal irrational self soon, and we can process it then. Although honestly, he's been so nice lately that it's hard to get mad at him.
Have you ever had a relationship where there is a little, not a whole lot, but a little, resistance? And a large part of the relationship is pushing up against that resistance and being pushed back? Then suddenly the resistance is gone, and there's nothing to push against? That's sort of where I and my therapist have gotten. He's totally accepted my dependency needs. He came as close to promising me therapy for however long I want it as a person can honestly promise. Forever as long as it's in his power therapy. He's apparently decided to find my stubborness amusing, and seems to regard it rather fondly. All the resistance, all I've butted heads about for eight years, is suddenly gone. It's kind of odd, but nice. So now I'm far more inclined to drop my defenses and seriously consider what he says about my relationships with others in my life, and my problems with life, with an open mind and without a stubborn reaction. So we're really progressing on my real life issues.
I don't know what's going on, but I like it. I hope it lasts. Of course, I'm sure it won't.
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