Posted by allisonf on July 16, 2003, at 2:56:35
In reply to Same sex therapist? No No., posted by pinkeye on July 15, 2003, at 15:29:43
> Oh.. no. I would never want to go to my same sex therapist.. I don't think I would have this magical feeling with her. And I wonder if I would have improved as much as I have done with him. Most of my improvements were also because of my transference for him, out of my respect and feelings for him. I wouldn't have had this if I had a same sex therapist.
> Again this is my personal opinion and might be different for different people.
I am totally there with you pinkeye, I have been in love with my therapist for way too long. And it just won't quit, despite all the talking and analysing each situation as it happens (tho I do agree with Dinah that the open, honest exchange of feelings is better than the alternative).But I am also here to say that a same sex therapist is no safer than the opposite sex (transference works in mysterious ways...) My therapist is a woman, like me, and these feelings I have for her, romantic, erotic and otherwise, rival any infatuation I have ever had for a boy. Until recently, I've never thought of myself as anything but heterosexual, so this experience has called for some surprising sort of self redefinition...that ought to be part of therapy, but I just don't know if I can get past the shame of it to discuss. So anyway, I can really understand your discomfort discussing your romantic feelings with your therapist. I agree the end result is the better place to be, but the journey is not easy! Good luck to you!
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