Posted by fallsfall on May 21, 2003, at 11:57:08
In reply to Re: Intimacy, codependency issues » fallsfall, posted by kalyb on May 20, 2003, at 14:10:12
Here is a pretty good description of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD): http://www.borderlinepersonality.ca/bpddefined.htm
It is not the kind of diagnosis that one would wish for. Though, knowing what was wrong with me did help to focus my learning and treatment.
DBT was designed for BPD, but I believe that it can be helpful to others as well. In your case, there are exercises that can help you to determine when it is and is not reasonable for you to say "No". And how strong you should make your "No". It could also help you to determine when you are right and when she is.
Your mindfulness description was very good!
If parts of DBT are not applicable to you, you could skip them (assuming you are doing this with a therapist and not in a class). It is really a set of skills that help you live your life better.
The textbook is in my local University library. My local bookstores both have the skills training manual, and one carries the textbook, too. You could browse and see what you think. Amazon gives you a peek at the table of contents.
Good luck!
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