Posted by fallsfall on April 11, 2003, at 13:49:23
I am severely Depressed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I am suicidal, but I won't do anything until my youngest is out of High School (3 1/2 years). Even though my plan is for a long way off, I feel really badly.
I have 3 close friends, who all have mental illnesses. I need some support from one or more of them, but I don't know how to ask. I'm afraid that a discussion will dredge up feelings that they don't want to remember. I'm afraid that they are too fragile. One is really good at setting limits (I am hoping to learn from her!), and is really busy right now. I've started talking with the first two. They have given me simplistic responses (I said "This morning was rough, but I'm doing a little better now", she said "I'm glad you are OK now") and haven't asked for any details of what "rough" was.
I can't call my therapist, much of the problem is an issue that she and I are working on, plus we are trying to make me less dependent on her.
So how do I decide whether I can burden my friends with my pain? 2 have attempted suicide in the last 6 months. I don't want to send them back there. And once I decide, what do I say?
Thanks for your help.
poster:fallsfall
thread:218533
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