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Culture Shock

Posted by white rabbit on April 10, 2003, at 12:36:15

This is just irritating the hell out of me. I keep trying to get past it, but I can't.

The psychiatrist I've been seeing for a couple of months now is from Pakistan. I don't know how long he's been in the U.S., but his accent is quite heavy and I know he makes frequent trips to
the Middle East to visit his family.

I don't care that the guy is from Pakistan, but I do care about his attitude. He's always very abrupt and impatient with me. When I'm talking, he cuts me off in the middle of a sentence. He gets pissy if I admit to having as much as a single glass of wine or more than a couple of cups of coffee. A few weeks ago, he gave me some paperwork to have bloodwork done, but I haven't gotten around to it. I TOLD him that my whole life is in chaos, that my husband is leaving me,
that I'm trying to get together 20 years of my stuff so I can move out, that I'm trying to find a lawyer, that I have no money. He has no comment about any of this, but he's frustrated with me because I haven't gotten the bloodwork done. First he tells me, when I'm leaving his office, that he won't see me again until I have the bloodwork results. After I get home, he has somebody on his staff call me and she says, "Dr. Jerk wants you to know that if you don't have that bloodwork done by next Friday, he's discharging you as his patient."

I just stared at the phone. I thought, what is this man's problem? But I do think I know. I was complaining to my therapist about Dr. Jerk, how rude he was to me, and I could tell that she wanted to say something but didn't know whether to say it. I told her, "Look, I'm in a bind, please tell me what you're thinking. Does he treat all of his patients this way, or did I do something that he just really hates?"

Finally she says, "Well, please don't tell him I mentioned this, but...you know, where he comes from, in Pakistan, women are second-class citizens. They're not much more than property."

My eyes got really wide, and then I got angry. Why, the asshole was irritated with me for
DISOBEYING him, and probably for wasting his time.
After all, during the 15 minutes allotted to me, he could be helping a MAN or cleaning his fingernails or something. I felt like going back to his office and beating the crap out of him,
see how he likes the second-class citizen opening up a can of whoop-ass. I'll SHOW him bloodwork,
macho scuzzball. If he doesn't like uppity American women, he can get himself right on the next plane back to Pakistan.

Okay, I feel better now. Guess it's time for a new psychiatrist.
-Gracie


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