Posted by Krissy P on March 14, 2003, at 0:25:29
In reply to Re: CBT Discussion, posted by male34 on March 13, 2003, at 22:15:53
Hi Matt and all, I did about 3 years of CBT and it helped a lot. When I saw my therapist, as we talked, she would often ask me, after I responded, why do you feel that way? or What has helped you in the past? etc. I think that many therapists that involve themselves in CBT are interested in 2 goals: 1) Why you feel the way you do, and 2) what can you do to help yourself feel better emotionally about the way you feel?
When I did CBT, I thought and thought A LOT. I wrote and wrote, I talked and talked. I got stuff out of me and with the help of a couple of great therapists, I was able to see things that may have been holding me back. Ex: my thoughts, my judgements, my beliefs, etc. CBT is a lot of hard work-but it is sooooo worth it, and I honestly think it does not end.
male34- I am so sorry to hear about your mother's death, and my thoughts are with you. I often got the anxiety you speak of here, I would be in class and my chest would just turn all blotchy. I was insecure. I was bullied at a very young age, molested at 7, bullied by my father, and my grandmother, (who I am actually helping take care of now-I guess knowing she will be 90 this year-life is too short for resentment) (depending) Anyway, Paxil also didn't help me with my anxiety in 1999-it made it 100x worse. male34- life is about change and we all face anxiety about it. If someone says they haven't they are probably lying lol. Try to think about what the worst case scenario would be when you want to change your anxiety-if you did---but also, try to think about the positive outcomes of the consequences when you forget for just a bit about your anxiety and do want you want to do, where you want to go, etc.
This is an example of what CBT therapists help with. Hang in there male34-I hope this helped some and I would be happy to share or help anyone who is wondering about CBT.
All the best, Kristen:-)
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ok here goes im male & 34 yrs old , ive had anxiety since 4th grade I cant go out far away with friends in there car for example cause I also feel the need to escape when I want to escape ,and changes in life always bring on anxiety (I guees its like a comfort zone to routine?) i get panic and anxiety bad and feel hot flashes heated goose bumps and sick stomach.Im guessing its also agoraphobia but if Im driving and in control its not so bad,this so hard to explain ive got a wife three kids a house and I dont want to lose it all to anxiety problems so can you help me? Im on lexapro 6th week still side affect anxiety! I also take very samll dose of diazapam. was on paxil did not work that great for anxiety, but MY POINT i want to kick this bad anxiety since childhood, my great mom just died and my worker of 7 years moved so ive been seperated from 2 people I liked to say I felt comfort in relieng on,now im anxious is this seperation anziety? I dont know ? but every darn day I feel anxiety lately !please help I will work real hard to fix and correct this and take your CBT advice!thanks I pray you and I can help this matter,thanks
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