Posted by mikhail99 on January 7, 2003, at 9:37:35
In reply to Re: Therapist Infatuation - Revisited (I told him!) » mikhail99, posted by Dinah on January 7, 2003, at 7:49:14
> Hi Mik,
>
> I think you're probably right about the running from the room if he said anything reciprocal. Back when I was working through the unequal nature of the relationship, I asked myself if I wanted to see him any more than once or twice a week at his office and the answer was a very loud NO! The therapeutic relationship is so special in itself that I wouldn't want to trade it for friendship, which I can get elsewhere. And he's probably not who I'd choose for a friend anyway.
>That's so true, we don't know really, how these people are outside the therapy room. They could be annoying or jerks or whatever. I feel the same way you do, I appreciate the therapy relationship for what it is and I don't expect or want any more from it. I can recognize the infatuation for what it is, and that it's something that must be part of the process. I know it says SO much about how I feel about my marriage and some other relationships. I'm dreading discussing some of that stuff (particularly if we have to get into my (gasp!) sex life!) but I'll see how it goes.
> And I don't want to give you the wrong idea. I do have a great therapeutic relationship. It's just that as in all relationships the little things chafe sometimes more than others.I know exactly what you mean about the chafing. sigh.
>
> DinahThanks again Dinah for your words of support, they mean so much to me.
Mik
poster:mikhail99
thread:2143
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20021230/msgs/2161.html