Posted by Dinah on September 27, 2002, at 12:00:00
In reply to The Case of the Pregnant Pdoc, posted by Ginjoint on September 27, 2002, at 10:52:05
Hi,
I'm afraid that sort of thing has happened to me more often than I like to recall. One of my "issues" is abandonment, and anything that sets off primitive abandonment feelings, also sets off a meltdown. I purposely chose a male therapist in part so that pregnancy wouldn't be an issue, but it turns out that there are many more abandonment issues available.
I really recommend the book
In Session: The Bond Between Women and Their Therapists
by Deborah A. Lott, Marie M. Cohen (Editor)It talks a lot about this sort of thing.
The good news is that your pdoc didn't get upset, and really isn't likely to. I'm sure this sort of thing happens all the time, and she's a professional who is trained to deal with it. Mine is sometimes taken aback by my meltdowns, but he always gets us through them. We talk about them, and about my embarassment over them. And everything turns out ok. Make sure you go over plans for her maternity leave, what to expect, who will fill in, and how you will cope. I had my therapist make a relaxation tape for me for use when he is out of town. It is a poor substitute for the real thing, but it helps a bit.
I'm so sorry for the disturbance that this is (quite understandably) causing you. Please don't add shame onto your other feelings.
Dinah
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