Posted by ~~tabitha~~ on August 31, 2002, at 3:55:08
In reply to Re: personality disorders, posted by cybercafe on August 30, 2002, at 13:05:23
> yeah ... they say narcissism is synonymous with abandonment and self-reliance... and i definately did the jump after being abandoned by narcissists and wanting to become more self-reliant ....
Oh yeah? Were your parents narcissists? My father was I think, though I have very limited memory of him. My mother did the whole living in his shadow thing, til she wised up and left him.
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> .. my main problem was shyness though -- i'm hoping now that i have the confidence narcissistic accomplishments help bring, i can go back to being a new, confident, happy selfless dude
Confident and happy sounds good. I'm not sure what kind of accomplishments you mean though. I see my narcissistic accomplishments as being irrelevant to true happiness or even at odds with it. For instance, being really thin was a narcissitic accomplishment for me, but it rested on feeling superior to those who didn't achieve it, and on rejecting my own hunger. True happiness would be self-acceptance and self-nurturing. Making A's in school was a narcissistic accomplishment, but it stemmed from fear of being less than perfect.>
> .. yes.... so where do selfless women hang out?
> .. and how can i spot them?Ha ha, I don't think you'd want to get into that kind of thing. Yes she'd buy into your grandeur, but it wouldn't matter much since you'd have no respect for her. She'd just be a flattering mirror for you and you'd still be alone.
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