Posted by Medusa on August 3, 2002, at 2:23:57
In reply to Re: P.S. » Dinah, posted by tabitha on July 19, 2002, at 1:49:23
Interesting topic.
I've participated in several groups - and been "mutually removed" from one. That was a retaining-oneself-while-coupled group, and I had issues with one of the other participants. I was sad to be kicked out of there - I had felt a lot of connection with all but that one member, and I was getting a lot of positive feedback from them.
The person who got on my nerves was constantly going on about how great it was to be part of the XYZ University community, and I should have just let it go. She was a secretary in a division that other parts of the uni make a bit of fun of, and the rest of us were in strenuous graduate or undergraduate programs. She made the first meeting twenty minutes late - and since it was the first meeting, we couldn't start without her - because she was running around looking for a FedEx drop box so she could get something out for her boss. Sure, it was her deadline and her stress, but it was hard for me to take that seriously ... and she went on and on about the stress of her job and how it was like boot camp.
I once remarked, without mentioning her name, that it was hard for me to understand how "some people" could feel a sense of belonging so quickly, when I had worked so hard and attained a more selective status yet didn't feel "worthy" at all. Other group members laughed and knew exactly what I meant and had some of the same sentiments, but this went right by the therapist.
It made sense for the leader to remove me rather than the FedEx stresser, though, since the topic was relationships and I had recently broken off a relationship, and she was in one.
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