Posted by Phil on May 21, 2002, at 20:28:46
In reply to Sexual harrassment/abuse/humour, posted by sid on May 21, 2002, at 18:38:04
sid
a. Get back in therapy and stay as long as you have to. Find a good therapist and you won't be bored. You'll be taking care of yourself.
b. Does this ass---- live in the same town as you? Move or tell him your next step is a restraining order.
c. Tell your sister...they have kids! One guess on what he's doing to them!!!!
A few more observations. You say he tries to control himself but has relapses. Bullshit. You need to never see him again. Do you believe that?!!
You should not be embarrased because you were powerless when this started. You're trying to censure yourself is called denial. You aren't powerless now unless you choose it.
If you don't get good therapy for this you will continue to attract abusers unconsciously. That's why so many adult children of alcoholics grow up and marry three alcoholics in a row.
You need to put your recovery at the top of your list, be your own advocate, and play some serious hardball with this low-life.You don't need a man cause you're angry as hell. Get help.
Sorry to be so blunt but I have no use for anyone who abuses children. If you were my sister, he would do well by checking over his shoulder every minute. I'd nail that bastard.
I hope I haven't offended you or anyone else but I cannot tolerate child abuse. I had it too.
Get busy. Keep us up to date, okay?Sincerely,
Phil
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