Posted by terra miller on June 5, 2002, at 0:14:40
In reply to Terra?, posted by judy1 on June 4, 2002, at 18:27:34
Hi. I hope your appointment goes well. It sounds like you are working hard right now- good for you. Let me tell you something: I remember when my therapist sat down with me (something he rarely does; usually sits across from me) with a bunch of written material that i had given him (that's how i stay sane... i write everything out and give it to my therapist.) anyway, he slowly went through it showing me some of what i had written (i never remember) and the different styles of penmanship and emotional tones. all that is to say, it was as if "he" had determined that the time was right to tell me what he was suspecting. and i was totally nervous and relieved all at the same time. i felt like i finally could trust somebody and that i had chosen to trust the "right" somebody. he was kind, gentle and patient which put at ease all my fears that i would be perceived as psychotic, etc. "he" knew better.
more than being told you have a certain dx, you need to know if your therapist knows how to help you get better. for example- if you theoretically have a part of you that SI in order to cope but you have no awareness at all of that- what would your therapist's approach be to help that part heal? (it's always safer to ask questions "theoetically.") there's the approach of providing better coping skills/educating. but there's also the approach of seeing if there's stuff that needs processed/feelings/maybe stuffed memories. you have to get to that stuff to get better, IMO. but your therapist may be waiting until the SI is under control before going down that road... but that would be another excellent question to ask her; if she is doing that.
let me know what you are comfortable sharing about your appointment.
terra
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