Posted by Larry Hoover on April 25, 2005, at 8:25:35
In reply to I'm not nearly as bad as my parents, posted by Dinah on April 24, 2005, at 11:34:05
> My father put away an awful lot of alchohol. My mother ate an incredible diet. Her tuna salad is a big bowl of mayo with some scraps of tuna mixed in. I wouldn't touch it with a ten foot pole. I may be overweight, but not as overweight as she has been for as long as I remember.
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> So why am I falling apart just like they did? Don't I get any points for being better, if not perfect?Yes you do, because you have insight that your parents lacked. You can't do much about your genetic heritage, but you can do something about how you interact with your environment.
In any case, it's how you manage what life brings you. You're very conscious of your internal processing. It's also necessary to adopt an attitude of acceptance.....that every day, in every way, you're the best that you can be. You *always* do your best. That is quite good enough, dear.
Please don't get caught in that thinking trap I call, "The Myth of the Perfect Person". There is no such thing. No perfect anything. Even using concepts like better invokes a similar comparison. What you did is always your best. I know that. I know that, and respect it very much.
Lar
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