Posted by Jaye on April 29, 2003, at 20:17:30
In reply to Re: walking through a door » Jaye, posted by Dena on April 29, 2003, at 16:42:14
> > The result of finding these methods of coping has cleared a channel for spiritual connection, and through this connection flows nurturing energy and an illumination which makes love possible.
> >
> Dear Jaye -
>
> Could you elaborate on "these methods of coping"? I'm curious.
>
> Thanks.
> Shalom, Dena
>
>
Dena, hi. Well, it is/was a process that took a while, many small steps. In the beginning I had a lot of mental pain which made me feel fear.
My "guru"/therapist said that pain passes through everyone like a stream and that I was collecting the pain, like a dam in a river.He likened doing that to taking on the pain of the world, much to much for one person. Instead, I should let the stream flow through me and as painful thoughts arose, it was fine to look at them as much as I needed to and then let them go. In my mind's eye I could mentally see my hands holding a painful thought in a little box. I would turn this box in all directions and look at the "thing", then I would let it go. The interesting outcome is that when a reacuring bad thought comes up, instead of trying to process it or fight it off or do any other mental gymnastics, I just think - oh yeah THAT thing again, and I've already looked at THAT, so I don't have to look at it now. When it's a really sticky problem, I take it to my therapist to "open the box" . There seem to be some things that are so scarey, that I want someone to be there when I look in the box.
Well, anyway, that was the start for me of finding a way to handle pain/fear.
I hope this makes sense.
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