Posted by Nadezda on November 18, 2008, at 16:20:21
In reply to Re: Bad day, posted by Nadezda on November 17, 2008, at 18:55:00
Maybe it doesn't matter what he thinks, in the sense that that he thinks it doesn't make it true. If I try to understand where he's coming from and what he's reacting to, but also feel that my judgment is responsible and as honest as possible, then I don't have to feel that I'm wrong and horrible.
I 've looked up mean-spirited and it isn't how I am.. Sometimes I feel hurt or disappointed too easily, or don't have faith in other people-- or that I can do the right thing, or that I'll get too caught up in my own bad feelings (of depression or hopelessness), but I'm not ever intentionally mean or malicious, petty or vindictive. I've also asked my bf, and he says that's not how he experiences me-- at all. I have to respect and believe in my sense of myself, or not my fears, or self-doubts, or sense that there's something horribly wrong with me-- which cause me to be extra-vulnerable to criticsm and to be fearful of others.
Nadezda
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