Posted by WaterSapphire on September 19, 2008, at 16:00:58
In reply to Re: Racer (possibly ED triggers) » WaterSapphire, posted by Racer on September 19, 2008, at 13:50:07
If your friend has talked about these things with you then there has got to be some way to approach him. The how, is the hard part. From my understanding most people with eating disorders are uncomfortable and have a distorted view, or behaviour mechanism and are only judging their own bodies. It is so hard. True anorexia, bulimia, etc are of course mental illnesses. I ate healthy today and kept stepping on a scale that doesn't even go up high enough to weigh me, but I have a need to at least gage once it has gone round the dial. Being this big is hell. It really is. It is hard. It is not to blame for every medical problem out there. But, you get brushed off and ignored by doctors sometimes even where there are more serious things going on that have nothing to do with your weight. I want people to see me for me. All they see is an anxious obese person. I know you are not like that. Perhaps saying to your friend I am worried about your health, and remember when we talked about this and this...
Perhaps you could use me as an example. Tell your friend how you know someone who is sick and is getting blown off and has been tossed around because of weight issues, even though some of the things that are going on are not weight related.
I would not wish my size, or health problems on anyone. Heck there are big people who are a lot healthier than me and a lot older. I think I am off on a tangent now lol :) Once I get going, I have trouble keeping my mouth shut. I just have to keep telling myself that severe calorie restriction is not the only way to lose weight. We shall see...I need help...
Every time I go to eat, I am afraid now lol...
I am eating weight watchers style, but the guilt sometimes is just amazing.
Well, I hope you can find a way to help him. You care about him and you know what it is like to have an eating disorder...
Peace
Chelle
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